To break these patterns and experience love from a place of wholeness, you need three powerful inner forces working within you:

 

🌿 Your Inner Mother: The Essence of Deep Self-Compassion

 

Your inner mother nurtures, soothes, and holds you with unconditional love. She whispers:

 

“I see you. I love you. I will never abandon you.”

 

When she is present:

✨ You can self-soothe instead of spiraling into fear.

✨ You meet your emotions with tenderness, not self-judgment.

✨ You stop outsourcing your worth to your partner.

 

But when she’s missing?

🚨 You criticise yourself instead of offering care.

🚨 You struggle to self-soothe and rely on external validation.

🚨 You feel emotionally starved, always searching for love outside of yourself.

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Developing your inner mother means learning to meet yourself with tenderness—so that you stop outsourcing your worth to your partner.

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🛡️ Your Inner Father: The Essence of Radical Self-Responsibility

 

Your inner father is the protector, the one who holds strong boundaries, takes inspired action, and creates deep safety within.

 

When he is present:

✨ You hold boundaries and honour your needs.

✨ You take action instead of waiting for someone to “choose” you.

✨ You create safety within yourself instead of clinging to relationships out of fear.

 

But when he’s missing?

🚨 You struggle to say no, set boundaries, or walk away when necessary.

🚨 You feel powerless in love, waiting for someone else to “fix” things.

🚨 You stay in situations that hurt you, hoping they’ll change.

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When your inner father is present, you step into  heart-centred self-leadership. You show up for yourself instead of waiting for someone else to do it.

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Without these two inner forces supporting you, your inner child will continue looking to your partner to meet emotional needs that only you can fully fulfill.

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And finally, your

Inner Wise Woman: The Essence of Deep Trust & Regulated Nervous System

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Your inner wise woman is the healing, embodied version of you. She knows how to regulate her emotions, trust herself, and ask for support when needed.

 

She is deeply connected to her body wisdom and nervous system. She has beautiful visions for herself, and desires in her relationships and life. She's feel safe in her body, embodies self-acceptance, and allows herself to be guided by her truth.

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She doesn't allow the wounded inner child to run the show. 

 

When you embody your inner wise woman:

✨ You approach love with discernment, no longer chasing unavailable people.

✨ You know how to regulate yourself when emotions rise.

✨ You stay connected to yourself, even in deep intimacy.

✨ You are deeply attuned to your heart and keep it open in relationships,

✨ You ask for your needs to be met with clarity and confidence.

✨ You feel good in your skin and in your body. You feel radiant.

 

Without embodying your inner wise woman,

🚨 You react impulsively in relationships instead of responding with awareness.

You struggle to let love or your partner in because fear keeps you stuck

You take on manipulative behaviours hoping they'd get you what you need from your partner

🚨 You feel trapped in cycles of anxiety, emotional overwhelm or shut down.

🚨 You struggle to trust yourself, always looking outside for answers.

You don't feel comfortable in your body, and that brings up intimacy issues.

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Not doing the foundational work of healing your inner child means you may also struggle to embody the power and autonomy of your inner wise woman—the part of you that enters a romantic relationship with self-awareness, tools for self-regulation, and a desire for interdependence.

 

✨ Your inner wise woman is grounded, discerning, emotionally-attuned, and deeply connected to her needs and desires.

 

✨ She navigates relationships with clarity, compassion, and an open heart—knowing that love is a choice, not a means of survival.

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She is the essence of soft strength, connected to her expansive and powerful feminine range.

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